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Saturday, June 28, 2008

I am sadden by my home girl’s separation

A buddy of mine got married about a year ago just to come home from college to find out her marriage is over. She just wants to leave and return to college. I know she's hurt but she doesn’t want to talk about it.

As a good friend, I try to explain to her both side of the equation but she has already made up her mind. She’s attending grad school in California (paid in full) and he's in a lucrative construction job that travels across the Western USA. She refuses to give up her opportunity at the USC and he won’t give up his 6,000/month salary with his construction job. I don’t blame either one for not giving into the other because they’re both in a great situation. It just pains me that they didn’t discuss this before they tie the knot.

I knew this would be a problem because they both have worked so hard for the opportunity they have been given and every time i would bring it up, they would just dismiss it as if it wouldn't be a problem. I know their parents especially the mothers, they didn't see it coming. I hate when people are so obsess with fantasy and completely blow off reality. Now reality is hitting both these young people like a ton of bricks. It's just tough to see as a friend because i was in that situation before i broke off my engagement...

What would you do?

1 comment:

  1. My education means absolutely everything to me, so I'm pretty sure I would've done the same thing if I was in the same situation BUT I would've tried to work it out, or at least find a way to keep my marriage going even though I'd be away from my husband.
    But of course, I'm not Superwoman... it wouldn't be possible. That's why it's always best to sit, think and talk about things like this. Prevents a whole lot of mess in the future.

    Hope they get back together...if not now, in the next year or so...

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