Here I am chillin’ at the office and my boy called me…it’s like the 100th time for today…this cat always call me on when he’s going through stuff and I am more than happy to help because he’s always there to help deal with my crap.
Last time we spoke about love and relationship, he was telling me about Hypatia, his new shawty. Since then, I sort of ignored the whole thing, I didn’t really want to hear about how she’s making him change certain things about his diet, his daily routines, etc. But now, this cat called me some crazy ass news. ‘Hypatia is pregnant’, he said. All I could say was, ‘word’ . So he went on tell me how the first night he busted her, the condom popped and few weeks later, she told him about it. So I asked him what he was going to do.
‘Well’, he said, ‘she had an abortion and I don’t know how to deal with that’. I responded by saying, ‘word…dang dawg…dang.’ So here’s the story: she called him and explained how she was pregnant and told him that she was at a very important stage in her life and she didn’t feel like she should keep the child. At the time, she was relying on him to change her mind but it seemed like she had already made up her mind about the whole thing so he didn’t voice his displeasure. Instead, he chose to talk to me, after she had already aborted the child.
My thing is, abortion is a serious procedure and if both parties do not agree on going through with it, then you should seek an outside source or a confidant’s perspective. Homeboi is troubled that she had the abortion without giving him a chance to process things. On the outside, it doesn’t seem like he’s ready to have a child but then again he wanted her to keep it. He expressed how, he didn’t want to force her to keep something she was totally against from the get-go. I mean, how was she going to read this man’s mind if he didn’t openly share it with her.
I don’t believe in abortion so I would never agree for my mate to have one. I know it’s her body and she’s the one who’s going to carry it yet it’s not like she had sex with herself and was going to carry her own sperm for 9 months. It takes 2 and I think they both should have dealt with things together.
What say you?
2021-2022 Season Finale
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2 years ago
Personally, I don't support abortion.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I do think if a decison must be made, it should come from the two people involved.
I found myself agreeing with many of your points.
Furthermore, women AND men must take responsibility for their actions when having sex. If BOTH partners do not wish to have a baby, yet enjoy the pleasure of sex, then responsible action should be taken to lower the probability of pregnancy. And yes, women, by all means, stand up for your rights and expect your partner to be loving and responsible. Otherwise, you may find yourself in a tumultuous situation.
However, as far as abortion being liberating for men and not for women, one must not be narrow-minded and look at only one viewpoint. In the instance when a man wishes to have the baby, whereas the woman wants an abortion, does the man have any right to choose? NO. In this case, the abortion becomes liberating for the woman, not the man. People must realize that there are always two people's emotions involved when deciding on abortion (not to mention the baby's life). If abortion is the ultimate choice, then it should be the choice of BOTH the woman and man. Don't simply ignore the voice of men who are responsible for their actions.
I don't think she gave him enough time to digest the whole pregnancy thing and to come up with a quick decision, as she would have expected. He was probably still in shock, especially if it were his first time in a pregnancy situation. Needless to say, she could have given it some more time to respond or react. The decision should have been agreed upon by both, not by one.
Very interesting follow-up story of the characters from prior piece "When is it ok to sacrifice for love???"
Keep us posted!
u and simply made some valid points. I think sex is between two parties and so the decision whether or not to keep the baby should be decided on mutually. However, I don't think the man could force the lady to have the baby, it's her body which is where the gray area is. He can work on convincing her though and the role he intends or able to play.
ReplyDeleteAll I have to say is the lady had already made up her mind, if the guy's opinion, needs, desires and wants don't matter why tell him?
Lastly, take as much precaution as possible peeps if you're not ready for a child because you just never know.
I agree that it is the decision of the people involved whether to have an abortion or not..but to me abortion is the easy way out of your responsibilities..he should break up with her because she could not include him in such a crucial decision, but took it upon herself to determine what his future of child bearing would be..people often neglect the possibility of that being the only child that they can have..I know a woman that is in her 50's and has been married 3 times trying to find a man that can get her pregnant..well after so many attempts and visits to the doctor...she came to find out that when she had an abortion in her teen years, the procedure damaged her uterus..so thusfar leaving her unable to have children!!!!
ReplyDeleteOuch, yes most people should think carefully about having abortions and consider it as a last resort because it does have some damaging effects and you never know if God wasn't planning on giving you just one kid.
ReplyDeleteI'm a bit reserved and that's probably why I feel this way about abortions and I really don't think most guys will take seriously some girls who choose abortions as the way out. I know guys who left women like that. I say keep it between you and God if that's something you want to do because in addition to damaging some of your body structures you might be destroying your reputation.