Abortion...Who's decision is it?

Here I am chillin’ at the office and my boy called me…it’s like the 100th time for today…this cat always call me on when he’s going through stuff and I am more than happy to help because he’s always there to help deal with my crap.

Last time we spoke about love and relationship, he was telling me about Hypatia, his new shawty. Since then, I sort of ignored the whole thing, I didn’t really want to hear about how she’s making him change certain things about his diet, his daily routines, etc. But now, this cat called me some crazy ass news. ‘Hypatia is pregnant’, he said. All I could say was, ‘word’ . So he went on tell me how the first night he busted her, the condom popped and few weeks later, she told him about it. So I asked him what he was going to do.

‘Well’, he said, ‘she had an abortion and I don’t know how to deal with that’. I responded by saying, ‘word…dang dawg…dang.’ So here’s the story: she called him and explained how she was pregnant and told him that she was at a very important stage in her life and she didn’t feel like she should keep the child. At the time, she was relying on him to change her mind but it seemed like she had already made up her mind about the whole thing so he didn’t voice his displeasure. Instead, he chose to talk to me, after she had already aborted the child.

My thing is, abortion is a serious procedure and if both parties do not agree on going through with it, then you should seek an outside source or a confidant’s perspective. Homeboi is troubled that she had the abortion without giving him a chance to process things. On the outside, it doesn’t seem like he’s ready to have a child but then again he wanted her to keep it. He expressed how, he didn’t want to force her to keep something she was totally against from the get-go. I mean, how was she going to read this man’s mind if he didn’t openly share it with her.

I don’t believe in abortion so I would never agree for my mate to have one. I know it’s her body and she’s the one who’s going to carry it yet it’s not like she had sex with herself and was going to carry her own sperm for 9 months. It takes 2 and I think they both should have dealt with things together.

What say you?

Sex before the 1st date

- “I just wanna go home and get under my cover”
- “Word! Can I join you?”
- “of course, but I am going to sleep though”
- “I am not sure if I can just sleep if I am to lay next to you”
- “your buttocks, tits and lips would be prime locations to touch and feel”
- “cute”
- “all that before the first date?”
- “that is the first date”

So that’s a conversation between myself and this very fascinating young lady. Now is it possible that a man would want to hit it before he takes her out on that very first date? Does it matter if we have sex before we go out on our first date?

I’ve been in that situation before and on a couple of occasions it has happened. And having had sex prior to the first date didn’t change the course of the relationship. I think it could happen to just anyone especially if we do not live near each other. For example, say I am 20-30 miles away and I happen to be in your area, my first thought would be to give you a call and ask if I can stop by. Once I stop by, because we haven’t seen each other in a while and because we’re overly attracted to each other, our hands wouldn’t want to stay off each other. It’s not like I stopped by to get some, but due to the circumstances, there’s a greater chance for something to happen; whether we both wanted it or not.

Your thoughts!

Would you be offended???

This is a very serious short entry, so your opinion matter a whole lot. Yesterday I walked in on my co-workers talking about African Americans (black, negros, etc) in a so not positive manner. They were talking about Obama and why they wouldn’t vote for him and it’s as if they were stating that the country will never be ready for a black president and if Obama is elected then he should be assassinated so Biden can be president.

I don’t really care if my co-workers like Black folks or not, but such a conversation shouldn’t have taken place at the office. The funny thing is, when they noticed that I was out there, they quickly changed the conversation and I said continue on with the subject. I didn’t jump in the debate because I was afraid that I would say something stupid and somewhat question their ignorance.

How would you have reacted? They have never mistreated me or said anything offending to me, so how should I approach the situation? Your thoughts!