"I don't need him"

Have you ever had a female friend say that to you? Or have you yourself said, “shoot, I don’t need no man”… Well, ladies while I understand your frustration I totally disagree.

I have met a lot of couples who have gone through so much together and in the midst of a heated argument they would say things that they don’t particularly mean but the minute the woman say, “I don’t need you”, that’s when things are taken to a whole different level. As I perused the net the other day, I came across an article about the demise of the black man where they discussed women who make more money than their male partners and who flaunt it in their man’s face. What many women fail to see is that, a lot of man cannot take that. We won’t ever tolerate being emasculated by a woman, whether she’s with you or not, it’s unacceptable. So brothers who are threaten by this end up leaving and women try to convince themselves that can live without a man while their children suffer the most in the process.

I’ve always believed in hard work and if I am with a woman my job as her partner is to encourage her to grow, to fulfill her potential, and if it means she has to leave me to reach her full potential then I will allow that. I am a confident brother so I won’t ever be intimidated by the growth, intellectual and or success of my woman. Not possible. Her success is only benefitting us because now her motivation is my motivation to succeed as well. We fail to realize that when building a successful relationship, sometimes you need to let your guard down and cast aside your ego for the future of the relationship.

One thing I need my woman to know is that, no amount of success can replace me. You need to let her know that she needs you just as much as you need her. Back in the days, women didn’t know as much as they do now, so a lot of the new age women are taught that women can do just as much as men, excluding certain physical limitations those of which are balanced out by physical acts that they can do that men cannot. My dudes, think about this for a second. Don’t you think mentally women have the same capabilities of logic, reason, and intellect as any man. Don’t you think there are evil women just as there are evil men, and good women just as there are good men. It’s time that we recognize and respect one another for who they are and what they bring to a relationship. At the end of the day, the woman’s contribution to a healthy relationship matters just as much as man’s.

So ladies, when you say you don’t need a man to make it in this world, do think about the things you’d be missing out on. For my ladies up north, do you think it’s the same when you’re sleeping alone on that cold night, surrounded by cold sheets and an empty heart? How sweet are you successes if you don’t have anyone to share them with? True that you can motivate yourself but don’t you think that by having your partner push and motivate you it would be a better feeling? Ladies, I understand you don’t need someone who’s abusing you, degrading you, insulting you, mistreating you etc. but you need him just as much as he needs you mah. Hope you don’t go twisting my words saying that I want him to have authority over you that is not the case at all. He needs to understand that he doesn’t have power over you and that you 2 are equals and nothing will ever change that. Brothers are crazy at times and we do and say some crazy stuff but we ourselves need to realize that in front of every strong and successful brother, there’s a strong and successful woman. We cannot be too proud and let our egos get in the way of love folks. It’ll mess up the whole ride up the ladder.