I’ve always had a fondness for subliminal messages. I find them to be real cool and I use it all the time. But in the world of dating, subliminal messages are not good. It can become a hindrance on the relationship when the partners are always trying to decode these messages being disseminated. Truthfully, I get upset and if I’m having a bad day, I might have a tantrum, go on hiatus, ignore her calls, and pretend as if I am punishing her. But I tell you this though most smart chicks won’t buy that bs. She’ll get upset right back. She’d be like call me Vivica A Fox nicca cuz 2 can really play that game. She’ll get mad just because you’re mad and been ignoring her calls. She’ll get upset even more because you ignoring her is kinda like a subliminal message itself. And you don’t want her to call the girlfriends cuz you know they’ll be man bashing for hours…NONSTOP… See what I mean, they always win. WOMEN!!!! GOLLY.
So a while back I was dating this chick and because my schedule was very hectic, I think I was planning a show or something, she text me and said, “B, I don’t think we’re companionable. You’re a busy guy and you and I will never work.” So the minute I read that, I processed it, I mean shawty and I had only been talking for maybe three weeks, so I was going to try to change her mind about anything. I sort of saw it as a good thing, so I texted her back and I said “OK. Peace.” CLASSIC!!!! Ain’t it? So as I was driving back home that night I was saying to myself how I didn’t have to call her at night, I didn’t have to check in during the day, I mean dating has gotten so danm confusing. Dating is almost like having a relationship without really having a relationship. Dating includes: dining-out, phone calls, flowers, e-mails, postcards, promenades, walk on the beach, sex on the beach, sex, blowjobs, 69, etc. Those are the gist of dating ain’t it??? So what do people do when they’re in a relationship??? Hmmm…lemme get my thinking cap on for a sec… THE SAME EXACT SHIT, right? So why call it dating if it’s really a relationship or if the demands are parallel to a relationship? Oh, I get it, light bulb just went on in my brain…the thing that separate dating from a relationship is that she or he can talk to any other man or woman he or she desires because she’s not committed. There you have it folks…that’s what separates dating from a relationship.
Ok let’s back to the topic at hand. So where was I? So this chick didn’t want to pursue anything with me and I am cool with it. So I got home, took my usual shower, text a few of my friends, watch my late night sports center and went to bed. I got up the next morning, to my disbelief, this chick had sent me 30 text messages asking me why I didn’t call her, is it because I am with my side hoe and a whole bunch of other idiotic questions. Now my first reaction was to call this heffa and set her straight but I was like ok, let me just call her and say what’s up and see what she’s talking about. So the minute she picked up the phone, her smart ass had a real smart comment, “oh, now your ass wanna call me?” I was like “danm heffa, chill the fuck out” I said to her, let me hang up and get back to you in a sec. So given that I had saved that last text she sent, I simply forwarded back to her, just to remind her as to why I didn’t call. She hit me back and said, “That’s not the point. I know you were with one of your groupies, that’s the reason, why you ignored me all night. If you wanted this to work in the first place you would have ignored that text”. So, I had to put my stupid hat on for a sec, and I said to her, “oh really? What or who the fuck gave you that idea?” She said well, I said that so you could call me…SAY WHAT??? See folks, dudes like me take every word you say very seriously. I have no time for bullshitting. Dionne Warrick and I are not cousins, so I don’t read mind. Call Ms. Cleo for that kinda shit. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Capiche ladies. I bet this heffa is still texting me wondering why I am not responding to her text…little does she know, this number has been changed, the new number is “kite m viv”!!!!!! lol
2021-2022 Season Finale
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*What's That Growling Noise?*
The WORD wonders. That growling noise could be his stomach. Maybe it’s the
backhoe digging up the front yard. Or, more like...
2 years ago
hey no cus words, remember!!! you're a mess, but you right,say what you mean and mean what you say....Damn,3 weeks of dating and she was being that demanding. Well,i guess i she learned the hard way.
ReplyDeleteI take pleasure in and benefit from reading your pieces, because of their realness. However, although this is a great piece that your readers, both male and female can learn from, some may find it offensive due to the ending �GET MANMAN W�.
ReplyDeleteLet�s try to keep the cussing at a limit. Who am I to judge? But can we at least let�s refrain from the insults referring to one's mother? We all have moms, right? Can we perhaps have some respect for those matured women who gave birth to us and who indeed deserve that respect?
Let�s get real. �Get Manman� refers to a mother�s vagina canal, point blank.
The creole word is �langet manman�w�. Langet is explicitly the inside of the vagina.
Men who date airheads:
All those men should have to do with those confused and insecured women, is to give them the silent treatment. That's the worst punishment any man can give to any woman. That teaches airheads to not say things they don�t mean and to use their brain intelligently. I�m only referring to the woman in this piece as a airhead because how can you make demands when you�re only dating? Men flee from women like you. Men don�t roll like that. What�s up with you Airhead?
What men need to know:
-You cuss the woman out. Her mouth may be louder, dirtier and run at a faster speed than yours. (Motor Mouth)
-You yell at her, she screams for the whole world to hear. (Embarrassment)
-You hit her, she goes crazy and unnecessary issues may follow. (Trouble)
-You make her jealous or reject her. She turns into a stalker. (Nightmare)
-But, when a man gives a woman the silent treatment, regardless of who she is, she feels lower than dirt and takes it real hard. (Shame)
Airheads should be ignored, not cussed at, because they don�t know any better.
That's my view.
Women just can’t say stuff that they mean…and more…
ReplyDeleteI certainly can relate to that (guilty as charged).
We, women can be nuts at times and confuse the heck out of men and drive them crazy.
That’s only because of a certain lack of self confidence within us. Which can be a major problem in either a committed relationship or simply dating.
That’s why sometimes we, women end-up messing up even good relationships and affect the men that we claim to love.
Most of us will never change, but some of us eventually will, as we learn the hard lessons of life in throughout our womanhood.
We, women, spend our precious time making stuff up in our minds about our companions. Most of the time, they’re stuff that don’t even exist. We make men wrong for everything and even our on mistakes sometimes. We bagger men, like they’re scum bags.
We say things we don’t mean and the funny thing is we do realize that we’re being stupid at times.
We make those mistakes over and over and over again and it’s sometimes too late to correct them.
I believe if a man really cares about a woman, regardless of his lifestyle, at the end of the night, he will give you that phone call or stop by for that special moment with the woman that he cares about.
So women should just let men soar, stop being control freaks and selfish brats, give men their God-Given freedom that they’re so entitled to and make them feel that they matter and they’re wanted.
If a woman really wants to use her intelligence and try not to change a man, at the end of the day, he’ll be your man and he’ll be with you. And the groupies will just have to step aside.
Trust me… I had to grow up, having married a musician (nightlife) and businessman (busy and odd schedule).
It’s a lifelong learning process.
Women also need to know that men are wired differently than women.
Wake up listen up ladies.
Men will be Men, they do things differently, take stuff seriously and process information in their own way. Furthermore, they have no time or patience for our whacked emotions, silliness, drama, nonsense and stupidity.
We cannot change Men. They don't do well with demands or ultimatums. No matter how hard we try to change Men, we fail on every attempt. We will be challenged and victimized if we insist on changing them.
Hello, it just won't work.
We just need to accept our Men for who they are and those same strong-willed men will do very well with women that are self confident.
Take this piece of advice from me. Another woman who's been there and done that.