Is it ok to show too much or too live attention? That’s a question that a few friends and I have been discussing for the past few days. This trip has really given me a chance to explore different things and truthfully, I wish I wasn’t enjoying myself so much because I am now wondering if I should move back here for good. Yes, it would be tough at first but then again what would I lose?
So my dude Bobby is an introvert; he met this girl Tyna, who’s an extrovert. And while Bobby is not afraid to show his feelings, he’s cautious and very careful. Tyna on the other hand, she’s always telling him how she feels etc. They haven’t known each other for a long period of time so Bobby doesn’t see the need to show this girl too much affection too early into the relationship. Now, if I was asked this question a year ago, I would tell him to just put all his cards on the table and if she doesn’t jump on it, then, let it be. But now I feel differently about it. So I told him to do what he feels is best. But my friend Marco, who’s an extrovert, thinks that Bobby should reciprocate Tyna’s act and she let her in on his feelings even though its only been a short period of time and they haven’t even spent that much time alone with each other.
But then again, if Bobby doesn’t express his feelings, she’ll probably start wondering about him and where she fits in; so either way, he’s in the dog house. Too much or too little??? I am not sure if ther’s even an answer to that. You probably just have to follow your instincts and see what happens.
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Eventhough people should have reservations because it's no fun being hurt or being misled. However, you need to express yourself enough for your partner to know that you are interested in getting to know him/her better. In other words, there should be some kind of balance and both parties need to be on the same page.
ReplyDeleteAt the beginning, I would advise everyone to be careful and take things slowly. These situations are difficult, the best thing to do is to evaluate each scenario differently and go with your guts feelings. I hate when people are trying to be in control of their emotions especially when a relationship has already been established.
I myself am an extrovert and have come to learn through my experiences that being reserved can sometimes cause you to miss out on something good.
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree in the beginning you should be careful and a bit conservative with your feelings, but at the same time you should be able to express your feelings up to a certain extent so your partner knows that you are interested and would like to pursue something with them.
See for women I can say that they always want to know how a man feels about them...but being all reserved because you may feel that you will get hurt is not the safe way to go about it. Controling your emotions is the worst thing you can do in a relationship when you know and feel that you have some sort of feelings for your partner.
Letting your guard down does not always bring you heartache, but being honest to yourself and your partner will open that door to something good.
Too much can cause you heartache and too little can cause you missing out on something special.
This is to your friend "Bobby".
ReplyDeleteA guy does not need to be unnecessarily close to a woman you are just meeting. It is wise to maintain a bodily distance that will make her breathe freedom and enjoy her privacy and self-respect. In return, she will respect you for your understanding and your respect for her. However, if you have a serious interest in that woman, but don’t want to rush into giving her too much attention, then use your facial disposition (not your handsomeness, because that could attract her to you or put her off altogether). A facial disposition could be anything like a smile, a 10 second stare, etc. I prefer the smile (I call it the smile medicine), which turns every heart on and melts "hard" heart also. I mean put a genuine smile on and not a grin and talk to her with your eyes.
Another good means of attention is the act of giving. It is an attractive means of giving & gaining attention, but it must be wisely done. Find a suitable period, item and time to offer one and don't overdo it, because you certainly don't want to give the wrong impression.
Lastly, do something more attentive when you talk to her, so she can feel you through your communication. Don't fidget, put all nerves and manly pride aside and just communicate comfortably while your throw your hints @ her. Compliment her in a special way as often as occasions permit.
Those are some ways to slowly give attention to a woman until you're ready and/or comfortable to escalate into a relationship w/her.
Common Sense: If a man is dancing around a woman's circle and does not step into it, nor show any interest in it although he's invited; of course then, as mentioned in the piece, she will begin to wonder about him or where she fits in.
I'm sure "Bobby" has been in this game long enough. He should know how it's played. If not, give him some pointers B.